“Crazy-busy’ is a great armor, it’s a great way for numbing. What a lot of us do is that we stay so busy, and so out in front of our life, that the truth of how we’re feeling and what we really need can’t catch up with us.”
-Brene Brown

I understand the hesitancy of men who are new to therapy, don’t know what to expect, and aren’t as comfortable with emotional vulnerability.  I work with individuals who feel disconnected from their family; men who find themselves buried in the safety of work chaos to avoid the emotional discomfort of going home. My experience working with addiction informs how I help clients learn new ways of coping with difficult and uncomfortable feelings instead of numbing out with alcohol, drugs, TV, sports, porn, or food.

Many of the men I work with have achieved their dream life – the perfect job, the beautiful family, the house in the great school district – but they struggle to sustain the weight of the pressure and wonder why having achieved their dream doesn’t feel as satisfying as they thought it would.

One of the things I like about being a therapist is providing a space in which men feel comfortable enough to explore difficult experiences they have buried deep and kept heavily guarded. Creating opportunities for social support from other men and having a place to talk about how hard it can be to open up is transformational work that is shifting the culture of masculinity.

Many of the men I work with start therapy not knowing the basics of emotional awareness and expression and struggle to coach their young children in the very skills they were never taught during childhood. Once my clients begin to connect with their feelings, they are able to experience the deep relational satisfaction of helping their partner or kids navigate their own difficult feelings.

If this sounds like you, I invite you to contact me today so we can get started on your journey towards being the man you and your loved ones want you to be.